Definition~
It is a description of what a culture regards as standard or conventional sexual behaviour. Different cultures, subcultures and individuals have different ideas about what constitutes this type of sex. Often, it is interpreted as sex which does not involve such elements as BDSM, kink, or fetish activities.The term "vanilla" derives from the use of vanilla extract as the basic flavouring for ice cream, and, by extension, meaning "plain" or "conventional". Thus, the term "vanilla" is sometimes used as an insult, to describe someone who is overly conventional, or unwilling to take risks, in both sexual and non-sexual contexts.
My life before you-ordinary, plain, vanilla. A life long idea that sex was a way to measure the amount of Love someone had for me. "If someone doesn't find me sexually attractive or beautiful they don't love me. " Why I was conditioned to feel this way is a mystery to me, but now I am experiencing Love the way I had always imagined, measured only by who I am as a person, and what I am to you. Beautiful ?-yes- but its not the only reason you love me, it runs so deep into the trust and understanding Wwe have for each other. What Wwe crave and how it is fulfilled. The dark desires for pain and pleasure, fulfilled through give and take. The ability to express Oour true selves without fear of degredation, or real humiliation in a world that would never understand. you are a beautiful distraction from My once lonely life. Thank you.
